1. Taking an empty escalator up, i notice out of the corner of my eye, a man directly behind me on an otherwise empty elevator. I also notice he has situated his phone up under my dress and has been taking pictures the entire way up.
"You’ve got to be fucking kidding me!" is what i yelled. And i did yell, for several minutes. I didn’t take any of his bullshit, made him delete all his pictures, and sent the ever intimidating mall cops after him.
2. Yesterday, walking through Seattle, I watch a man and woman yelling at each other across the street from me. I turn my head to keep walking and hear the smack of her head smashing into the ground after he punched her in the face…
Everyone around her doesn’t move and stares at her, crumpled into a sobbing pile. I drop all my shit, and sprint down and across the street. Blood is pooling beneath her head, and her “husband” just takes off down the street. I get her atleast sitting up, find where the blood is coming from, and get the police and medical response on the phone.
All I have to say is:
Fuck you guys. I’ll keep fighting for myself, and for every other woman out there.
So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.
For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.